You cannot immediately sue for gender discrimination. You must first go through the Equal Employment Opportunity Commission or the state agency that acts in its role. I prefer the federal EEOC. You should work with an attorney to put your charge together. It's a formal process and there aren't really any "do overs," so if you leave things out or fail to identify all your claims, those claims are likely lost should it come to a lawsuit.
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